I propose a social understanding. If A and 2 make plans, and A does not confirm, and A doesn’t show up, that is on A. A was inconsiderate. However; if A and 2 make plans, and A does show up, but 2 not because A did not confirm, that is not on A. You both made plans, and A fulfilled their half. Similarly; if A and 2 make plans, and A confirms, but 2 cancels during the confirmation ( or vice versa ), no one is inconsiderate. Alternately; if A and 2 make plans, and A confirms the day of, but 2 must cancel because 2 double booked ( or vice versa ), then that is on the double bookee. No amount of confirmation fixes the disregarding of the previous plans.
In short, if confirmation is really what you hang your plans and social interaction on, a [insert communication device here] works both ways. Stop griefing the person who stuck to the original plan because you forgot and they didn’t remind you. You forgot. And trying to blame the party that remembered is uncouth, and certainly uncalled for. For the record, the previous statements were not made with malice towards A or 2. Simply commentary on backwards social practice.
It isn’t reasonable that we have grown to require plans to be made, scheduled, and then also confirmed. Making the plans and scheduling them in the first place is confirmation enough. If you are of a mind to take down these plans into a calendar, to write them down in some place that you will refer to later when making plans, then you have already confirmed your plans.
I have on several occasions had my presence requested for technical support. Fixing computers is kind of this thing that I do. When you call me, and ask for assistance, and I schedule an appointment, I will be there. If I do not show up, that is my damn fault. But when you decide to skip out because I didn’t call and confirm that I would be there, because you requested my presence? Guess what? [Expletive] you. That’s what. If I were Geek Squad you would be getting charged for my [expletive] [expletive] time. And it would be a lot more than I charge.
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